What is much more common is that adults must do the work of healing those patterns from childhood when they learned to operate out of shame, fear and anxiety. Those patterns are never longterm solutions, and they must always be replaced with love and acceptance if we are to continue to grow as adults. Regarding the study above, I have more than one question: What is the life expectancy of those kids? What is their health like? Their marriages? Their children? As teens, I could see that they have learned to "convert" those needs for attachment into more socially acceptable behaviors and self beliefs. I'd love to see the results of this spanking "study" on a longer-term scale.
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My kids watched TV as soon as they could sit up and they're still sweet, sane, emotionally well-adjusted little human beings in spite of it. So, I would totally let a new baby watch TV, too. But this time around, I’d be on the floor, eating banana chips and watching the Wiggles with them (or whatever the cool babies are into these days) because kiddie TV, when someone is interacting with you while watching it, can be really fun. I’d also play hide and seek (and not just so I can sneak away to the bathroom to read 50 Shades of Grey while my kids think I'm looking for them). I’d do puzzles, and color, and hold tea parties with actual liquid in the pot. On rainy days, we’d play board games because, hey, I’m over 40 and my brain needs the memory boost, too. As for sunny days, let's just say my baby and I would make it our mission to make playing outside sexy again! The point here is: childhood is fun and I want in on that action! Photo: weheartit.com
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