In America, although we are privileged, life can at times be far from easy, and maintaining a relationship with your partner can be one of the most difficult.
After being together for a while, most relationships can get pretty routine. But how can you make a lovely, stable, long-term relationship sparkle brighter and hotter than the burning sun itself?
I have seen many instances where long-term couples fix this issue and completely dodge this "rut" stage, whereas some less-strong couples break up or file for divorce because they simply cannot handle sitting down and having a creative, intellectual, or deep conversation about solutions for saving the relationship. If you are in a relationship, make sure you and your significant other communicate; communication is a key factor on both ends. Now, if you are in this situation, I will help you to open you and your partner up and bring you closer, if not motivate you.
It is crucial that you keep your eyes open at all times. Keep your senses clear. If you find your relationship in a suffering state or rut due to life's endless stressful situations, etc., this could be a potential danger zone. Start looking into different ways in which you and your significant other can keep each other entertained and happy. Recently, the living situation I found myself in with my fiancé was starting to bore me, because we worked at the same place and lived together, so we would see each other frequently. Even though we were working for two separate companies, I did feel he secretly felt the same tension in our relationship. And that in itself was torture enough. Although we got along just fine, I started realizing he and I were having less and less sex. That was a horrible experience for both of us, because an endless number of things go through your head, including questions stemming from fear or insecurity.
After endless hours of brainstorming and researching online about how to save a sexually-frustrated relationship, the answer was very clear. My boyfriend and I decided to start dating each other, like we did in the very beginning, and actually leaving our house to watch a movie, go eat or hang out with friends. It was extremely important for the both of us to re-ignite the flame, and to my surprise we started having sex in the most random locations. Of course, since I am a geek at heart, I kept the locations written on a random piece of paper I found at one point during our adventures.