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Don't Let Text Control Your Relationship
The wonderful world of technology has made texting a huge part of how people interact with each other. Many people will text all day long with anyone from friends and family, to people they are just getting to know. Texting for every single reason for communication doesn't seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. However, texting to get to know a person you are trying to date isn't going to get you the communication you need in order to build a long-lasting foundation. Texting can almost be a cop-out way to start a relationship, because it tells the person that he or she is not good enough for a phone call. Texting is generally letting a woman know that you will just end up a booty call. So ladies, here's some relationship advice for you when texting is the only form of communication.
Once you meet someone online or you have given your number to a woman in a bar, naturally you are going to expect some type of communication through the phone. Most people would assume that a conversation will begin by the man calling the woman, but that isn't the case anymore. Men have gotten lazy and think that a few text messages mean a date or a booty call. Unfortunately, some women allow this! For instance, a friend of mine is attractive, smart and has a good job. She is always giving out her number to men; however, it is what happens next that always screws things up. Her phone will beep, and she will be very happy that Bob from the store remembered to be in touch. The text will read something like, "Hey girl, it's Bob! What's up?" Within a few texts, she gets invited to go back to his house, if he is not already at her house. Any grown adult is going to know that sex is expected, and the man is thinking that this lady is super easy. My friend feels bad, because she knows that sex is expected and so will have some form of sexual contact with the guy. Texting is not communication. Texting is for friends, or for couples that have been together for a long time and who already know each other. A quick check-in for dinner or to get something from the store, maybe, but not to build a relationship.
When is texting acceptable?
There are a few occasions when texting is okay. Once a few dates have been established, and perhaps the woman of your dreams is running late, a text stating, "Running late, on the way" can be a quick way to correspond. Or, a check-in during the day saying, "Thinking of you" is a nice way to communicate. If you text a few messages throughout the day to each other, that is fine. However, when you have only been on a few dates, and you text all night long, where is the phone? You already have your phone right by you, how about just calling? Women have allowed men to do the texting thing, and it has let the communication walls fall down. In the beginning of a relationship, communication is one of the most important factors. If you have found yourself dating a texter, you need to let her know that you don't find communicating that way productive. Just be flat-out honest, because if you don't say something, the annoyance will build up to the point where you will just get angry. Also, if your woman doesn't change her ways, then you know she may be immature and not ready for a committed relationship.
One of the most important factors in building a strong relationship is communication. It is the key to helping a relationship get off the ground. If a woman cannot return a call or confirm a date to meet up and have dinner, then she is probably not ideal woman for you to continue seeing. Also, when a woman can't call, but only texts, it generally means that she is dating someone or lives with someone. (CHEATING SIGNS: 7 MORE REASONS WHY A MAN WOULD NEVER KNOW A WOMAN CHEATED ! PART II) These are all warning signs that perhaps she is hiding someone else serious in her life. If you went to dinner with a nice lady and everything was respectable, then you can allow text messages from time to time, but do not let them become the major method of communication. Use the text messages as a quick method to set a date for a phone call or a location to meet. However, never hear about a person's life story through text messages, because that means there is a severe communication barrier out of the starting gate and chances are, your relationship will never stand a chance.
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This article was originally published at How To Get The Woman of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission from the author.