A conservative lady in the streets, and a freak in the sheets.
The dating world is hard enough, but dating a lady who is conservative can be even harder. Conservative women are generally not comfortable with themselves sexually and feel as though certain sexual acts are dirty or only for women that are loose.
Another aspect of conservative women is their upbringing. Women with a conservative background were often taught by their parents that only certain girls do things such as blowjobs or have wild sex. These women are taught that good men like good girls, not whores. Unfortunately for them, that is not the truth, because having a great sex life in a relationship is very important.
Figuring out what will help your conservative lady get freakier in bed might seem like a task that will take forever or be almost impossible. The key is finding her special spot (or spots). You also need to be sure you are giving her an orgasm. In some cases, you might be with a woman who is so conservative that just having intercourse is a dull, five-minute-long affair.
There are a few different ways you can approach this difficult situation.
1. Talk to your partner about how important sex is to you.
It isn’t “using” your conservative lady; it's just nice to please her. Be sure you emphasize pleasing her, because you want her to enjoy herself.
2. Suggest trying something new in the bedroom, such as orally pleasing her and going no farther.
Try to make those five minutes mind-blowing for her. It's a bit of reverse psychology, because the better you orally stimulate her and the more often you suggest it, the more likely she is to actually ask you for a little “something.”
3. Help her relax.
Conservative women sometimes have a hard time relaxing. They feel as though they need to be on guard all the time and are not open to anything new or different. This is the ideal time to plan a romantic night with cocktails or wine. Not only has she chilled out a bit, but you can start a sexual conversation with her. You might learn about things she is concerned with or how she feels about sex.
Orally servicing your conservative lady can be one way to really get her to unload. You should always go really nice and slow when you are giving her oral sex. Always watch how rough you are on her clit and surrounding areas.
One of our biggest complaints about oral sex is licking the clit too rough. You should think of oral sex similar to licking an ice cream cone: You want to go slow and easy. A great way to start warming your lady up is by licking her gently in circular motions. During this time, you need to listen for her breathing if she isn’t vocal. Any changes in her breathing mean you are doing a good job.
When you feel like she is warmed up, you need to slip a finger inside her. You have the option to finger her, but you must not lose focus on the licking of the clit. Clit stimulation is so important. You also can insert another finger inside her and go as deep as you can.
A huge sexual turn-on for women is the feeling of being “opened up.” Two fingers deep into her vagina while you are licking her clit can send your conservative lady to the moon! If you are feeling daring, you might just ask her if she likes it. When she knows that saying “yes” is OK and not slutty, she will let her guard down and know it's OK to let loose.
The fun thing about sex is there are so many different avenues you can go down. The most important thing to remember about getting your conservative lady to relax is realizing that this process isn’t going to happen overnight. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is helping your lady break down her sexual boundaries.
Starting small will make the approach easier, so she will not feel any pressure to get freaky. Show your lady that you love and respect her, and everything will fall into place.
This article was originally published at How To Get The Woman of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission from the author.