Well, that depends on whether he is a strong man or weak man. Technically, the man is supposed to be the head of the household; however, in today's world, women work just as hard as men, so the traditional roles are often blurred. Nowadays women make just as much money. I know what you’re thinking; of course, not all women make as much as men, but the point is that they can, and many do. Many women are working 40-plus hours a week, just as men do. I know that women in general, according to statistics, are paid less for performing the same job. Why is that? I do not agree with this pay difference, and I will leave that particular question for another day because it is outside the scope of this article. The point I am making is that traditional roles, such as women raising the kids and keeping the home, are almost ancient ideas. (Should Women Be Barefoot, Pregnant & In the Kitchen)
A man's true role is to take care of and protect the family. A woman's true role is to have children and keep the home environment suitable for the upbringing of offspring who will become productive members of society.
We suffer as a community and as a country because many women no longer appreciate or want the role of mothers/homemakers. But keep in mind that men cannot have children, and this very important task was especially designed for women to bear. I know what you’re thinking: that men should step up to the plate and take care of the home and make women happy--as spoken so eloquently by Ms. Jacquelyn. She states that according to the Bible, men are supposed to love their wives, take care of them and make them happy. How would she know? Ms. Jacquelyn has never been married. She is going off false assumptions, what she hears people say as opposed to experiencing it herself. “This is the way its supposed to be,” she says, but it’s different when you’re in it.
Jacquelyn’s response is typical. How is a man supposed to make you happy? This is often one of the biggest misconceptions I hear from women: “He is not making me happy." Guess what? It’s not his job to make you happy. Also, according to God’s word, women are supposed to be submissive to their husbands and are not supposed to be sleeping around with every Tom, Dick and Harry just because society allows it. Women are unhappy and look to their men to create their happiness, because they are confused. It's exactly what happens when you have sex before marriage and with men you are not married to. (Whatever Happened To The Concept of the Virgin and Waiting To Have Sex Until You Get Married?) Women’s bodies may be able to take on multiple men, but their hearts cannot handle it.
And there you have it. You have created the uneasiness, unhappiness and restlessness in your spirit. Haven’t you ever noticed that you always have be to out and about? You cannot sit still long enough for your man to even do his job, as suggested by Jacquelyn, of making you happy. Unhappiness comes from within. The restless spirit that lurks within tortures you. You are in a mental state of always wanting more, and nothing will ever be good enough because you fail to understand the catalyst that made you unhappy in the first place. You block your own state of happiness, not your man. You say, “I want more; I want a man like this,” or better yet, you divorce or break up with your current man because he is not good enough. How would you know this if you had not been with other men?
My advice is this: A man's role is to take care of the financial responsibilities of the household. His job is to provide a warm roof, clothes on our backs, food on the table, security, keep the lights and heat on, etc. He is, in fact, the leader and the ultimate decision maker for his wife and children. A woman's role is to support her husband and bear and nurture the children so that they grow up to be productive members of society. (Genesis 3:16). The man’s role is to help their mother discipline them if necessary and to help with goal-setting and providing the necessary educational foundation and support for growth and development. A father provides tough love; a mother often provides love through understanding, and the two make one team.
Now we know that in our modern-day society we have custom relationships where the roles are often mixed. The daddy is the homemaker and the mother is the boss. Not traditional, but it works for some. The best thing for you to do is know yourself. What type of woman are you? Are you the bossy, masculine, dominant type, or are you the docile, feminine creature? The dominant woman needs a weak man and the docile woman and homemaker needs a strong man. There is a lot of confusion in today's relationships because many do not know themselves. The role you play depends on your personality. Nothing is set in stone anymore. If you’re a strong woman and you want a strong man to build an empire with, then you have to be willing to be submissive to the stronger leader, or else you are going to butt heads.
Let me explain. Submitting does not make you weak; it makes you more congruent with whatever goal you two have set for your family. Submitting means that if at some point a decision has to be made, and you are not in agreement, you still have to submit to your husband’s judgment. You may not agree, but this is the word from the Bible (1 Peter 3:1, Ephesians 5:22).
This is also how countries operate. We have a president and vice president for a reason. You also have to understand that a relationship or marriage is a business, thus, the marriage contract. (Should Marriage Vows Be Updated?) I know there are a lot of weak men out there who submit to whatever a woman tells them to do, but what’s interesting is that many of these women are unhappy and desire a stronger man. The problem is that now that these women have gotten a taste of power, they do not want to give it up, even if it means being disobedient to God’s word. As a result, many have become incompatible with being in a relationship with a strong man.
This article was originally published at How To Get The Man of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission from the author.