What Men Really Think About You in the Club

The men you flirt and converse with while at the club will also give a clear message to potential suitors as to what type of person you may be. If we see you flirting with numerous men to use them for a night of free drinks and endless attention, that tells us you are immature, manipulative and probably too consumed with yourself to build a long-term relationship with us. If you are actively seeking the man of your dreams, don’t let your standards fall on club night. It is possible to find the man of your dreams in a club, but not if you’re paying attention to the wrong guys.   Get our e-book "The 14 Step Program to Finding and Keeping the Man of Your Dreams"

Behavior Inside and Outside the Club

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Are you totally wasted, stumbling around drunk inside the club and hugging or kissing anything walking? If that sounds like you, you can bet you’ll just end up being used by men who see an opportunity for their own gratification. Being in control while having fun is sexy and shows quality men that you enjoy the moment and don’t have to rely on overloading on alcohol to have fun. Make sure you are not out in the parking lot engaging in crude sexual acts or compromising situations - you may not be with the man of your dreams, but if he walks by and notices you in a less than flattering scenario, he will be sure to stay far away from you in the future.

What you need to understand about men at a club is that there are two types. There’s the guy who’s just out hanging with his buddies. He’s not there to really meet anyone. He’s just having a good time. If he meets someone, then great. If not, then no big deal. The second guy is there for one thing and one thing only. Think National Geographic. It’s mating season. Now, these two types of men will react in very different ways to the women in the club. It takes a keen eye to spot these differences, but after reading this, you’ll catch on. 

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The girl who shows up to the club begging for attention by wearing extremely revealing clothing and acting extremely flirtatious will get looks from all the guys. Many of them will approach her. She’s given off a signal that MOST men will read as “easy”. They’ll look at her as the one to go after and try to bed that night. Or, they’ll exchange numbers with this woman and their ultimate goal will be to try to get her in the bedroom as soon as possible. The One Problem With Being His F%@K Buddy