I met this beautiful co-host of a radio show last night, and after I introduced myself, she admitted that she was single and wanted some relationship advice. I had originally complimented her on the poise, professionalism and focus that she displayed during a very wild and crazy show. Although the show was crazy, she was the glue that kept it all together. I could clearly see that she had a wonderful spirit, so what was the problem? Why was she still single?
At that moment the best advice I could give her, and that I give now to you ladies reading this, was to continue to invest in yourself, to be the best person you can be and to not always look for the man that society tells you that you are supposed to have. For example, "I am looking for a man 6 feet 5 inches tall, 230 pounds, with black hair—and he must play for the Lakers." Instead, be alert for the man who will work the hardest for you. Look for the man who knows how to run your bathwater, and who is conscious enough to add the necessary salt and minerals to baby your beautiful skin: "Honey, your bath water is ready and the temperature is 82.5 degrees Fahrenheit."
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I believe Ms. Radio Show Host partially understood my words of wisdom, but later when I asked for her contact information, she stalled, and after a moment asked very politely why I wanted her contact information. She only gives it out for business; otherwise, she would have thousands of phone calls. Her hesitation made me pause and think for a moment. What had been a natural flow of events when networking now had me thinking, "Why do I really need her number?" On a deeper level, her hesitation is the main reason she is single, beautiful and sitting at home by herself without the love she desires. Her reasoning behind the question was, "How do I know that he will not be blowing up my phone?" I thought for a second and then responded that the only way I would ever, (and more than likely) not blow up her phone would be if she were an extremely nice lady and there was a mutual exchange of energy. Meaning, I am not the type to keep calling a woman who does not want to be bothered. She assured me that she is very nice, and after a moment, I disclaimed that I did not think I would need her contact information at the moment because there wasn't any immediate business that needed her attention.