Before you enter into any relationship, you must learn the art of forgiveness. Why? Because sooner or later we are all going to make mistakes, and if you do not know how to forgive, you can and will build a cage around yourself.
Perhaps this should have been the first article written by HowToGetTheManofYourDreams.com, because a lack of forgiveness will not only destroy your relationship, it will destroy families and all of the good times you could have shared together. I believe this subject is especially applicable to women. It seems that men have an uncanny way of picking up the pieces and moving on, perhaps because we are less emotional.
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There is a famous, but very sad, quote: “Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorned.” Perhaps it refers to the irrational behavior we see when women (Despicable Moms) run off, or keep a father from seeing his children, because they are hurt and have not learned to forgive. These character traits, which hurt the children, demonstrate why it is so important to learn to forgive before you enter into a relationship.
Ladies, let’s be realistic. The younger your man--20s or 30s--the more mistakes he is going to make. Why? Because he, like you, has very little relationship experience and lives in an increasingly sexual society. How can you expect him to be perfect and honest all the time, especially when you really do not want to hear the truth? Why ask a question if the answer is going to hurt or upset you? You have to use your maturity, wisdom and understanding to gain ground. Pain is an opportunity. You have to be that example you seek and desire from your mate. (Women Have the Power to Help Men Become Better)
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How do you ever expect to grow if you are going tit for tat with the MOYD? Someone has to be the leader, and since women mature faster than men and essentially have the P-Power, it is you who, with a little more understanding, control the destiny of your man. Thus, your learning to forgive is essential to the healthy development of mankind. You are the flower in which the bee lands. Have you ever seen a flower land on a bee?
Learning to forgive is essential to the success of any relationship, because as sure as the sun rises in the east, men and women in relationships are going to make mistakes. His mistake might be that he cheated and yours might be your unwillingness to forgive him.
The art of forgiving has a two-pronged effect. You take the higher road and become the ruler of those on the lower road, and thus become the perfect example of how you desire the MOYD to treat you.