Dating The Insecure Woman & The Secure Woman? Part 2


Dating The Insecure Woman & The Secure Woman? Part 2
Insecurity is a character trait that if not managed properly will suffocate the man of your dreams.

Say to yourself that he likes you because you are smart, beautiful, sexy, talented, creative, thrifty or whatever characteristic it may be. As you improve and he finds more beautiful things about you, then build upon those. This is what a secure woman does. She builds upon the things she has. She knows she is a great woman. She worked at it. She did not rely on her heels, makeup, etc., but used them as accessories. The key word is “accessory.” The American Heritage Dictionary defines it as, “1a. A supplementary item.”

True attraction comes from within. This is why we call purses, earrings, etc., “accessories.” Like an accessory to a crime, they helped make it happen but were not the mastermind. You are the mastermind. As a baby, you were born naked, and you, naked in your morning glory, is all a man will ever need.

The secure woman knows it comes from within her and everything else complements her preexisting inner beauty.

Cracking Facebook codes.

Oh my goodness. If you are cracking Facebook passwords, e-mail codes or voice mail, you have way too much time on your hands. You need to get a job, preferably working as a hacker. You have skills but are using them in a negative way, and all to accomplish what?

So now you found out that he really does not want you. What is the point? What did you gain? Without knowing it, your negative energy creates an aura around you that says you are not confident in yourself. If you are confident and secure, you already know that he can talk to 10 different women and he will still not find you wanting, so good luck to them. You know what the competition is doing. You know what you offer the MOYD and that the deal is a sweet one to the man who can appreciate it. When you are good at what you do, you are not worried about competition. You are your own competition. When Michael Jordan sees his arch-rival Magic Johnson, he doesn’t get mad at Magic. He respects him because he works equally as hard as he does. So if you are insecure, it is because you have not done the work, but you want the reward. You want that A on the test, but you didn’t study. Do not get mad at the girl who got the A–understand how she did it. Insecurities create hateful and fearful energy instead of love. Where there is fear, there is very little progress in a relationship.

How does a secure woman behave?

She is confident in who she is. She is not hiding behind makeup but uses it as a tool

She knows that the MOYD chose her, loves her and wants what’s best for her.

She understands her man’s weaknesses and helps him to overcome them to become a better man (Women Have the Power to Help Men Become Better).

She does not have 89 interrogating questions but replaces them with 89 compliments and/or reassurances (The Five Magic Words the Man You’re Dating Secretly Wants to Hear). She is confident in what the MOYD is saying and allows him to lead.

This article was originally published at How To Get The Man of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission.
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