If you have lived in a protective bubble your whole life and secretly desire the contrast of a “bad boy,” this article is for you.
Here is what you should know: Bad boys often put up a façade to cover their pain.
Why do women think they can change a bad boy into a great mate? Is it possible?
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According to bad boy Bryan, the answer is absolutely not! Bryan’s question for you is: What would ever make you think you can change me from the bad boy to the perfect mate? I was bad when you met me and still am, even after attending several DUI and drug-rehab programs. What makes you think you can help me become a fixed man when those programs couldn’t? Honestly, ladies, the only person that can change a bad boy to good is his own inner desire, with the help of God’s (and your) helping hand.
I asked bad boy Bryan about the defining moments in his life that made him wake up and say to himself, “No more, I need to change.” What was that moment that encouraged him to seek a relationship with God?
Bryan replied that after several programs for drug and alcohol abuse, time in jail, losing his mom and two really good relationships, he was tired. Bryan’s mother was his main support system in his times of trouble, and now he realized he could no longer rely on her to pick up all the broken pieces. After two failed relationships, he was tired of making the exact same mistakes. It is only when a bad boy becomes tired of destroying himself and others that he will have a chance to heal his life. Those of you brave ladies willing to take this wild ride should investigate first and fall in love second.
Duly note that bad boys often get worse before they get better. It has little to do with you and your relationship. He is trying to cover up past issues and regrets that he has not dealt with, while avoiding the root of the problem. He tries to drown out his past mistakes and insecurities with drugs and alcohol. This time it’s one drink; the next time it’s two or three, and so on. He will never drink enough to cover the pain, because he has ignored the original cause. As a result, the issue was never addressed.
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Bad boys often know what women to approach. It’s actually quite simple. He is attracted to and picks the woman who thinks she can fix him, the broken man. It’s the perfect match and an oxymoron: “I will fix him and he will be my perfect man.” But what this damsel soon-to-be-in-distress does not realize is that unless the bad boy is in a program like Alcoholic Anonymous or is actively taking the necessary steps to become a better person, she will eventually fall in love with trying to save him, along with the myriad of unsolved problems plaguing his inner sanctum. Consequently, his hell will become her hell, and the “two shall become one person (Genesis 2:24).”
The key mistake you make is thinking you can change him without any professional help or guidance. He will instead put you through hell and use you for every resource you have, until you are all used up or until the next willing victim comes to your rescue. (5 Sure Ways to Know if the Man You're Dating is a User)
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