The Art of Listening to the Man of Your Dreams (James 1:19)


The Art of Listening to the Man of Your Dreams (James 1:19)

Overly high expectations lead you to think it’s always about you. Here’s a little story I would like to share about a major breakthrough I had in a relationship that was becoming increasinglydifficult. I want to start off by thanking God for this breakthrough. Thank God for the first time my fiancée actually closed her mouth and listened. And because she actually listened, she could now finally understand me and that what I had been trying to say for months was not all about her, I really just wanted her to get to know and understand my personality.  It was an amazing breakthrough. Her understanding was genuine and once she stopped trying to protect herself by speaking over me and truly listened, she could finally understand exactly why I was pushing her away. I could not believe my ears when she admitted, “I now understand why you have been pushing me away.” She went on to say there were many things she needed to work on. It was dreamy, like, is this the same girl? I was like, now I am in love. And all because she finally listened. “Girl, if you keep this up, that marriage contract is just around the corner.”

It’s okay to know what you want; in fact, it’s the only way you are going to get it and trust that your man knows exactly what you want when it comes to marriage, even though you do not say it. It’s like we have a sixth sense. “Man, how long do you think she will be with me if I do not marry her?” (Understanding If You Are "Wifey" Material?) Well, here at HTGTMOYD, we are quite simply trying to help you get that contract. It’s certainly better than being the other woman. (A Double-Minded Woman Receives Nothing! James 1:7-8)


Your exterior beauty, makeup and the sexiest outfit from the top designer in the Beverly Center will not save a relationship when no one is listening to the other person with understanding and compassion. Once my fiancée closed her mouth, her ears amazingly opened, as if the Red Sea had parted in the Biblical story of Moses. And for the first time in our relationship, she could not only hear and see my point of view, she could also see her own errors.

Don’t be afraid of criticism, because you can and will get past it quite easily with a receptive attitude and an open ear. And frankly, not to listen to your man is to go against God’s word and the success of your relationship.

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This article was originally published at How To Get The Man of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission.
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