In closing, you can overcome jealousy by first admitting to yourself that you may have just a tad bit of a problem. Next, take responsibility and own up to this little emotional pitfall. Follow up with a list of all the corresponding emotions you feel when you are in a jealous state of mind. Then list all of your typical reactions when faced with these emotions, like throwing your keys, slamming doors, raising your voice—you get the point. You might want to have a friend or an ex help you make the list. You need someone who is going to be real and brutally honest with you. You may not agree with half the things they says, but put them on your list anyway. After this honest assessment of yourself, meditate on reversing this negative energy and removing and replacing the negatives with positives, using the same energy in the exact opposite direction. Get help and understanding from the five steps above. Again, remember that if you focus on a thought for 68 seconds, it creates a neural pathway in your brain and then becomes a dominating thought in your mind. After 21 days of focusing on this particular thought it becomes a habit—but in this case, a great habit.