5 Big Steps To Overcoming Jealousy in Your Relationship

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5 Big Steps To Overcoming Jealousy in Your Relationship
Jealousy has always been the ugliest trait, especially in relationships.

Why are some of the most beautiful women in the world the most jealous? Often in the dating world, a man finally gets to date the woman he finds picture-perfect, only to find out later that he has attracted the most jealous and insecure woman he has ever met. (Dating the Insecure Woman vs. the Secure Woman? Part 1)(Dating the Insecure Woman vs. the Secure Woman? Part 2)(9 Big Reasons Men Cheat on Beautiful Women). Imagine the irony of that. 

Jealous women tend to have every exterior asset, but the interior is often missing those plush leather seats that make the newly purchased car perfect. Imagine going to the car dealer to buy your dream vehicle, but when you are ready to drive off the lot after eight grueling hours of paperwork, they remove the seats. You're like, "Hey, I want my money back, or at least put the seats back in."

Jealousy is a strange beast and a very unattractive trait. The woman who waves this relationship red flag will ask all types of weird and unnecessary questions, and as men we start to get the feeling that her probing questions are not because she cares about what our friends Bobby and Suzy were conversing about with us in our meeting. Her only concern is herself, her security and positioning. When you think about it hard enough, it makes you want to throw up. It's the opposite of true love. Jealousy is an ugly trait that and if not properly managed, will rip a perfectly good relationship to shreds. 

On the other hand, sometimes a little jealousy can be healthy for the relationship and somewhat attractive, but when and if it gets out of control, it can become an ugly monster. "Where are you going, Teddy? You better not be flirting with any women!" Yikes, scary chick! Not cool. Eventually, your man will be looking for a way out. Using this relationship advice, learn how to overcome jealousy before it overcomes you. 

The key to overcoming jealousy is to identify and control the feelings within yourself that create those negative reactions. So at this point, you might be wondering what the solution is to rid yourself of these emotions.

Let's start by asking: Why are you so afraid of losing your man to another woman? Why do you need to have all of his time and personal attention? What is it about you, or your past relationships or childhood, that may have contributed to these feelings of loneliness and abandonment?

The law of attraction states you will attract the very situations you fear and want to avoid. The psychology of the law is true, because subconscious thoughts are transferred to your conscious thoughts through your speech. They are then expressed emotionally by your unnecessarily-probing questions. This creates a negative impression and an atmosphere of a lack of trust, which is not good, especially when your questions are off-base and relate to past insecurities.

This article was originally published at How To Get The Man of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission.
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