10 Tips To Keep Your Relationship Out Of The Tolerance Zone
A stagnant relationship is a dangerous position to be in because your relationship could go downhill very quickly. It also depends on who is tolerating whom. If the man feels as if he is tolerating you, this is the point where he will surely stray. Check out Understanding the Big 9 Reasons Men Cheat on Beautiful Women and Understanding Why Men Cheat... and How You Can Prevent It for more specifics.
This is a good time to do a self-check and analyze what has changed in your relationship, from the inspiration point 'till now. Now is when you want to get back to the basics. Pull out those old sexy outfits and dust off the mothballs. The number one mistake I see you women making is becoming too comfortable once you find the Man of Your Dreams (MOYD). You stop doing the things that attracted him to you in the first place. I have heard so many women say, "I do not need relationship advice", "I got this", or "I am doing just fine."
All I have to say is that if you do not need relationship advice now, you will certainly need it later, because you fail to understand the mind of a man in our modern world. It is really a stretch to keep all his attention directed on the woman of his dreams, with so many beautiful distractions around the corner. It really does take a lot of work and discipline for a man to stay focused when he has a good relationship, much less one that gets on his nerves—and that is simply the honest truth.
So, being too comfortable in your relationship with the MOYD will eventually lead to intolerance, and intolerance leads to stray dogs with fleas. So the first step to solving this problem is truly looking at yourself in the mirror. Have you stopped working out? What personal work have you done to make yourself internally and spiritually more attractive? Many of you will wait until the red and white flags are flying high before you desperately cry out for help. Many of you, being in shock, wait too long to make the necessary changes to jumpstart your relationship and find yourselves in the unwanted position of being tolerated, simply going through the motions. But the love that was present in the relationship has long since departed: "Girl, you know Randy has been with another woman for a year now!"
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This article was originally published at How To Get The Man of Your Dreams . Reprinted with permission from the author.