How I cope with all the negativity in the news and in social media.
I don't like to get into political, religious or in other types of heated debates with people primarily because the second you start labeling things people stop listening and just start blindly defending what they identify with as "their side."
However, this does not mean that I am not passionate about these topics, in fact, I would say I am very passionate about them. Many times after I read the news I feel myself needing to release some of that passion in writing. I think it helps me cope with the cluster f*ck of BS in the world that seems to happen on a daily basis. I am sure many of you know what I am talking about when it comes to feeling like you just want to start screaming WTF!
You may wonder how this kind of thing relates to my profession as a mental health therapist in the field of sexual health, but, the truth is that everything in our lives is interconnected. This means that when our mental and emotional health is suffering so can our libido and sexual functioning so it certainly hits home with me and my clients.
To combat stress I sometimes write articles or just make short posts and when I do I try to focus on substance rather than hype, to make a positive difference rather than just complaining or saying negative things about people or situations. I find myself compelled to write things that I believe to be true based on principles and values I think we can all relate to such as honesty, respect, and integrity.
I do this not just as an emotional and mental release but in hopes that others will know that they are not alone, that there are those of us who also believe in the good of people because frankly reading the news often makes me question our humanity and I am certain I am not alone in having that feeling.
Just like anyone else I am an imperfect person, struggling to make it in an often hostile yet beautiful world while trying to hold on to my sanity. I just hope if there is something I can do while I am here it is to help people feel appreciated, inspired and perhaps even get a glimpse of optimism. After all, as Gandhi once said- "Be the change that you wish to see in the world."
Lisa S. Lawless. Ph.D. is the founder and C.E.O. of Holistic Wisdom, Inc. which provides sexual health and wellness education, resources and products. She is also, founder of the National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality (NAASAS) which is an educational organization for sexual health professionals.