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Warning: Love In 10 Words Or Less [EXPERT]

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Warning: Love In 10 Words Or Less [EXPERT]
Poetic warning against settling for less than we deserve in this February Month of Love.

February - the Month of Love. For singles hoping to be couples, February can be a month of loneliness and agony instead. For centuries, poets have captured this pain with a romantic sincerity.

This pain is powerful and can make us do the most ridiculous things in the name of finding Happily Ever After, especially with so many potential mistakes being available to us at the stroke of a keyboard.

So for all of the citizens of the Toad Kingdom, allow me to introduce you to Robert Frost whom I credit for brilliantly summing up Valentine's Day mania in only 9 words: WARNING! Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.

As this month of Love rolls in, through and past, remember Mr. F's words. When you are tempted to say "What time will you pick me up?" to a date with whom you would usually say, "No Chance in Hell," remember: The woods are lovely, dark and deep, but ... (only 8 words, and it's the "but" that stands out)

I know this time of year can bring about a longing to be loved. If you don't have someone already - you will. But not the Toad whom you've been debating whether or not to Block in your Online Dating queue.

How can I know this for you? Because I was you, and because I answered yes to a few of those Toads over the last few Februaries. But I beat the odds that say women - over 30 and even pushing 40 - can't find Happily Ever After. I did it, so I believe that you will too.

But first you must learn to overcome that Irresistible Desire that the poets warn us about. So this month, turn that irresistible desire towards that saucy pair of red high heels you've been eyeing up in the Macy's window instead. No Buts about it.

Now that's poetry.

Warm Regards,

Heidi Lee

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Heidi Lee Munson

Author, Dating Coach, Matchmaker, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner

Author ... Online Dating Mentor ... Master Toad Kisser - Heidi Lee is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding happily-ever-after wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, she married and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

When she’s not penning the moments of hilarity, heartbreak, and horror at discovering the prevalence of male bad breath that infuses her memoir, Heidi Lee can be found toad-proofing women with Online Dating Profile Makeovers and as a Mentor with tips to never kiss another toad.

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