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5 Steps For “The Year Of You” Celebration [EXPERT]

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5 Steps For “The Year Of You” Celebration [EXPERT]
Never look for an online date when feeling desperate. There are toads out there looking for you!

Another New Year and here you are alone - again.

Who kissed you at midnight?

Oh, that’s right … Uncle Charlie was running around kissing all of the single ladies at that dreaded party. And all you were thinking was Can’t wait - hope he uses mouthwash this year.

And here we are in 2012, and you are still alone.

Wait a sec. There’s that guy on Catch.com. What was his screen name again? He’s been so persistent. You start to think; maybe he’s not that bad.

Maybe it’s time I give him a chance. Wonder if he’s Online Now?”

Oh, thank God. There he is, and he’s winked at you ... again!

Then, in a cold sweat, you force your fingers to the keyboard:

Dear HardinUAllNight, (I did not make this up; sadly, this toad thought it up all by himself.)

Please forgive my delayed response to your sweet note last month. The holidays were crazy. I would love to grab a drink with you if the offer is still open.

<as you count the calendar days left until the Ball drops in NYC already next year>

How’s tonight for you? I just happen to be free.

TTYL,

Janie

My Dearest Janie,

Do you feel like I’ve been peeking into your computer and snooping through your Sent Items? I didn’t have to. I was you a few years back, and I remember that inner battle all too well. And our toad specimen, let’s call him Woody, is indeed directly from my personal diary.

I hate to admit it but, Woody and I did grab that drink on a cold December evening. And while he asked me out for New Year’s Eve on that very first date, he also started reaching into his pocket for his Little Blue Pill before the waitress ever served our first drink. Check Please!

Trust me, Janie, your instincts were dead-on. And before you blame Catch.com for technical difficulties or problems with the Block feature for unwanted profiles, remember that this Toad found you.

You are a strong and beautiful woman, and you deserve to find your Prince Charming. But you don’t have to compromise yourself to find romance. If you find yourself alone this New Year’s Eve, at least it can be a toadless start to 2012 and that ain’t all bad.

If you decide to put yourself first this year and stay out of The Toad Kingdom (the bottom of the online dating bucket) Good for you! Make 2012 a fresh start and start this weekend. Take the evening to celebrate yourself and get ready. Here’s how...

5 Steps for “The Year of You” Celebration

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Heidi Lee Munson

Author, Dating Coach, Matchmaker, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner

Author ... Online Dating Mentor ... Master Toad Kisser - Heidi Lee is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding happily-ever-after wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, she married and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

When she’s not penning the moments of hilarity, heartbreak, and horror at discovering the prevalence of male bad breath that infuses her memoir, Heidi Lee can be found toad-proofing women with Online Dating Profile Makeovers and as a Mentor with tips to never kiss another toad.

Citizens of the Toad Kingdom, please sign up for the free monthly newsletter - The Toad Kingdom Times - for tips in dating and relationships.
 

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