“All adventures, especially into new territory, are scary,” says astronaut, Sally Ride.
I often say that the greatest adventure in life is to love and be loved truly, deeply, passionately so we burn in the Fire Of Love. Why is this such a scary adventure? Because we must risk opening our heart to love.
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What are we so afraid of?
Here are some possibilities:
Loving and not being loved in return
Exposing your authentic self and not being accepted
Sharing your dreams and getting ridiculed
Trusting and getting betrayed
Loving deeply and suffering the loss of love
Believing in someone and being disappointed
Growing forward while leaving your partner behind
Giving your all and not being good enough
Falling for a fraud and being a fool for love
Being generous and being loved for money
Bonding with your heart and soul while being unappreciated
Bouncing back from heartbreak and being hurt again
What other risks might guard your heart from love?
Jot them down. Then look over this list of risks. Add to your list the greatest risk:
Risking nothing and being chained down by fear is the greatest risk of all. Why?
If you risk nothing for love, you guard your heart and give up your freedom to love. You may avoid the suffering and sorrow of loss, betrayal, rejection, and disappointment. Yet you also avoid the personal growth and passionate joy you experience in whole-hearted love.
What will you risk for love?
I do not recommend reckless risks that endanger you or your children. I encourage you to feel your fear of taking an emotional risk, and then open your heart to love anyway.
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The heart is a love muscle that bounces back from disappointments, except one -- guarding your heart against love. This paralyzes your heart. The healthier choice is to exercise and strengthen your heart when you embrace fear and get the red-hot love life you deserve now.
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