Passion Test - How To Divorce And Be Happy With Your Ex


Passion Test - How To Divorce And Be Happy With Your Ex
Passion Test's Janet Bray Attwood reveals how she and Chris avoided divorce baggage,and you can too.

Chris and I are huge advocates of consciously loving what is.  Then you don’t let concepts ruin your world.  It’s a concept that an ex wife can’t be best friends with a new wife.  When we allow these concepts to take over our world, then our world becomes very small and very limited.

Byron Katie says that until you can say to a loved one who’s walking out the door, “Honey, let me help you pack your bags,”  you aren’t there yet.
Love is unconditional, when you allow someone to walk the path they need to walk.

Hadley:  You make it sound easy, but that was the hardest journey I ever made--to reach the point I could wish my husband well after he moved on.

Janet:  If you think about it, it’s harder to hold on to your pain, separation, and stories about what others have done to you.

Hadley:  That pain can be fatal, if you don't release it.

Janet:  So you walk from the place where there are no victims here.  You create your reality.  See every moment is a gift.  That sounds trite but true.  The Universe is set up that every moment is to serve you in some form.

No one said it would be easy.  Yet it's a lot harder to not be that loving presence and hold on to that pain.  You can release it, and do it in a way that you’re coming from your gut, "I want for you what you want for you."  Till you get to that place, it’s more painful than not.

Hadley:  I agree.  And give thanks to your greatest teachers for giving you the lessons you needed to learn in that moment.  To see it with new eyes.

Janet:  And use new tools, like work of Byron Katie, to undo limiting beliefs that will change your life in minutes.  Using the passion test is a tool.  The reason you wake up unsatisfied with your life is you aren’t making choices about doing your own inner work, because the world is as you are.  If you are love inside, you attract love.

Everyone is a reflection of where we are in this moment.  So dive deep in crevices of soul and forgive, surrender, appreciate and undo, letting go of concepts that create terrorism in the mind.

Hadley:  You’re an inspiration to all.  How do we find our path to an exciting, passionate life?

Find out in Part 2 highlights of my radio conversation with Janet Bray Attwood for A Lasting Love.

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