What Relationship Chemistry Means For Your Love Life


What Relationship Chemistry Means For Your Love Life
Avoid dating drama by identifying your dating goals and discovering 3 types of healthy relationships

Are you dateable or mateable? You'll love dating when you identify your dating goals and honor them as you choose the best people to date.  Let's walk you through the process. What are your dating goals? How do they help you choose your best dates?

If you seek instant intimacy in a casual fling, then your best date will share these goals and will not expect a serious relationship to develop. You are dateable, not mateable, unless your dating goals change. If you seek a healthy, happy relationship with lasting love, you are mateable. Before you choose your great love match, it is wise to be aware of three types of healthy relationships you may develop:


Companionship. Soulmate. Spiritual Partnership.

These three types of relationships exist on a continuum of relationship growth, but if you achieve the first level, companionship, you don’t automatically progress to the next level on a spiritual path. A soulmate and spiritual partnership place you on that path.

What are the differences in 3 types of relationships?

These differences are explained in the respected dating manual, Soul Dating To Soul Mating on the Path Toward Spiritual Partnership, written by relationship experts, Basha Kaplan and Gail Prince (The Berkeley Publishing Group, 1999). I’ve summarized their descriptions of 3 healthy relationships:


Companions reflect the traditional marriage or relationship. They typically enjoy romantic friendship, share common (tribal) values, express affection and appreciation, and commit to spending time together.

Companions often lead separate lives. They don’t want to rock the boat by confronting relationship problems, so they let them slide by.

Companions don’t spend time, energy and work needed to invent the “We”, so both partners remain separate. Often one partner gives up their identity for the sake of remaining in the relationship.

Companions aren’t committed to helping each other learn and grow, so their relationship remains static and rarely deepens into emotional intimacy.

The relationship is comfortable and easy until one partner engages in personal growth activities that change the status quo. Although love is present, the relationship no longer satisfies that partner’s needs for emotional and spiritual intimacy.

At this point, a soulful connection is needed to save the relationship. Both partners must decide to get on the spiritual path together or to separate.


Both partners are committed to each others’ personal growth and learning in a dynamic, emotionally safe relationship that they keep reinventing.

Soulmates commit to reveal their thoughts, feelings and ideas.
They help each other heal old wounds, see issues through their partner’s eyes.
They feel they have come home when they are with their partner.
They value change and agree to work through any power struggles that arise from it.
They recognize they are coming together to learn lessons in physical and spiritual realms.

Will soulmates stay together forever?

There are no guarantees. Typically a breakup occurs when they no longer can grow together or fulfill some non-negotiable needs.


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