Are you looking for the perfect intimate New Year’s activity for you and your significant-other?
Look no further. This 4-Step activity I’m outlining below can be used for either personal reflection, as a group activity on New Year’s Eve, or for an open and intimate conversation with that special person in your life. For best results, I recommend going through this process alone the first time before sharing your responses with others.
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Step 1: Take some "me" time and reflect upon these questions about this past year. Be sure to write down your responses.
1. What were your four biggest personal highlights and why?
2. What were your four biggest professional highlights and why?
3. What did you learn most about yourself this past year?
4. What were some of your biggest challenges and how did you handle them?
5. What, if any, regrets do you have?
Step 2: Take some "me" time and reflect upon these questions about this upcoming year. Be sure to write down your responses.
1. Based on this past year, what’s the best advice you could give yourself for 2013 and why?
2. What’s one thing you’d like to change most about yourself?
3. What unfinished business, if any, do you need to complete in 2013? What would that look like?
4. What could possibly prevent you from creating the year ahead that you truly desire? Is there anything you could be doing now to set yourself up to succeed? If so, what would that be?
5. In a year from now, what do you want to be able to say about this upcoming year in retrospect? What do you need to do to make that happen?
* You can add or substitute your own questions above or download my free “New Year’s Resolutions That Stick!” workbook for a complete set of 30 thought-provoking questions for this past year and 30 thought-provoking questions for this upcoming year.
Step 3: Based on your insights from steps 1 & 2, identify all the things you are willing to commit to doing in the three areas below:
What I will continue to do in 2013:
What I will stop doing in 2013:
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What I will start doing in 2013:
Step 4: For any goal or commitment to be successful, it is critical that you enroll others in your process; be it by sharing your insights and results with your significant-other from Step 3 or by doing this 4-step process together with a group of people. Either way, select an accountability partner and share with them what you learned from Steps 1 & 2 and what you are willing to commit to in Step 3.