These top tips for online daters by online daters came from focus groups conducted to find out about what works and what doesn't when online dating.
#1 – The purpose and result of Online Dating is to get OFFline and meet face to face. Don’t waste time sending emails back and forth for weeks or months. After a few email exchanges, have a phone conversation with the purpose of setting up a time to meet.
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#2 – BE HONEST – Don’t lie about your age, height, weight, income, etc. It will not serve you in the long run. If you say you’re slim and you really need to lose 35 – 45 lbs, yes, you might get to meet someone, but it won’t go past the first meeting. You’re wasting your time and the other person’s time. Don’t do it!!
#3 – PHOTOS – Post photos that are no more than 2 years old. You might THINK you look the same as you did 5 years ago, but the fact is that human beings age – even YOU!
#4 – PHOTO tips for MEN – Women really do not want to see your bare chest, even if you’re ripped. If you feel you MUST post a photo of yourself without a shirt on, DO NOT post it as your main profile photo. Women need to see a man’s face. Post a head shot and PLEASE take the sunglasses and baseball caps OFF!!! (SECRET: Women, at a subconscious level, want to know that a man can provide. Wearing a suit or tux sends this subliminal message.)
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#5 – PHOTO tips for WOMEN – Men need to see your whole body. Post a full body shot, or several. There’s no point in hiding it. The purpose of this exercise is to actually MEET men in person. The minute they see you they’re going to know what your whole body looks like. (SECRET: Even men who like animals do NOT want to see you holding your adorable little Fifi, or your precious little kitty. It’s a huge turnoff!)
#6 – CHECK YOUR SPELLING –Sloppy is NEVER sexy!!! PLEASE check your spelling, grammar and learn how to use capital letters and punctuation.