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6 Tips For Understanding Your Compulsive Partner


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Read these tips on how to support a compulsive partner.

If you are in a relationship with a compulsive spender, overeater, alcoholic, gambler, or other type of addict and are furious with his or her addiction, here are six tips to help you understand and support your loved one.

1. Be Compassionate: You can't imagine how a compulsive person feels. You simply cannot feel his or her cravings or urges. Do you have some bad habit or problem that you have been trying to get rid of unsuccessfully? Are you a chronic procrastinator, someone who keeps putting things off or showing up late and hate yourself for it? Maybe you have been trying unhappily to give up caffeine. That is how your loved one feels, baffled by his or her urges and hating himself for giving in to them.

2. Be Positive: Have you let your loved one's negative behavior cancel all that you find wonderful about him? Remind yourself of his outstanding traits and qualities that are lovable. He may be a capable and endearing person with a warm heart. Compliment him when it is appropriate. Be supportive.

3. Encourage Recovery: An addiction or compulsive behavior is not just a bad habit. It is a demonstration of a life out-of-balance. Self-help meetings or psychotherapy can help sufferers recover. Your partner will discover how to face and resolve the underlying issues that trigger binges. If you don't see an astounding transformation in a few weeks, curb your impatience. The best way to support her efforts is to stop hovering over her. Her progress is none of your business. Keep reading...

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