How to Control Anger When It Controls You

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Recognize your Anger Personality type and learn how to recognize and deal with the triggers.

Some other kinds of passive personalities that carry around unexpressed anger are The Clam who retreats physically or emotionally and hides away, The Cry Baby who turns on tears rather than expressing anger appropriately, and The Sulker who stirs things up as an excuse for a fight but refuses to explain what the bad mood is all about.

The Passive Aggressive person is both actively and passively expressing anger. He or she may forget a promise, break or spill things that belong to you, tune you out, or frequently come late while you fume as you wait.

 

If you have identified with one or more of the Anger Personalities I have described, what comes next? Here are some suggestions to help you control your anger appropriately and improve your health and happiness.

1. List your Anger Personalities.
2. Write a description of how you act when that part of you takes over.
3. Which people or situations in your life trigger your anger?
4. Which people or situations from your past still trigger your anger?
5. Learn anger management techniques such as: EFT tapping, yoga breathing, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, 12 Step program, or therapy.

 

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Gloria Arenson

Marriage and Family Therapist

Gloria Arenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Diplomate in Comprehensive Energy Psychology and author of 7 books. She is passionate about helping people help themselves to be free of negative emotions and compulsive behaviors. 

www.GloriaArenson.com

Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Credentials: DCEP, EFT-ADV, MFT, MS
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