The Daredevil Richard owned a successful business and loved to live life on the edge. He purchased an expensive home and generally enjoyed a rich lifestyle. Because of his addiction to thrill he held his breath each month when the payroll was due, fearful he wouldn't have enough money left to pay his employees.
The Dummy Sybil had grown up in a wealthy family where women spent most of their time doing good works in the community and life was pleasant. "I think the first two words I learned were charge it," she said. Women were treated like children, given an allowance and never taught about investing, earning, or acting responsible with money. As a result, today Sybil is broke, helpless and depressed.
The Needy Greedy Child Marie didn't feel loved as a child. As she grew up and started earning money, she became the indulgent mother she never had. When she felt emotionally needy she acted greedy. Marie also indulged her desires for rich foods and expensive shoes. As a result she was battling both compulsive overeating and compulsive spending.
The Spoiled Brat Diane loved to shop. When she ran out of money or felt too guilty to charge, she sometimes shoplifted small items because the craving was so strong she felt powerless to say no. Diane was treated like a princess by parents who never said no to her. Not only could she have whatever she wanted, clothes and toys were presented to her before she could even wish for them. Diane's mother was like a wonderful fairy godmother producing lovely things and anticipating her desires.
Once you have discovered your negative overspending personality you can learn to control your harmful compulsion as you follow the program I have created and describe in my book Born To Spend.
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