Applying The Drake Equation to IDateSmarter Program Principals


Applying The Drake Equation to IDateSmarter Program Principals
Always think you'll be alone forever if this relationship doesn't work? What are the odds?

It's so easy to believe we will never find anyone better than the person we are currently with.  My IDateSmarter Program and principles and use of the Drake Equation will quickly dispel this myth.

People end up in pain in relationships and yet have such a hard time leaving them. What's up with that?
We fall in love and so badly want this relationship to be The One, to make us feel safe and erase all the loss and pain of our lives.
So, when things start to go wrong we try to explain it in such a way as to make it "not that bad". But when we are honest with ourselves, we know it is that bad and we are just hanging on out of fear of being alone.   So I always ask people, when we get to this place, how many people are there in the world, or in our community? We talk about paring the number down using the things that they deem important to them:  gender, age, interests, location, profession/educational level etc in an effort to point out that even in our geographical location, there are thousands of people who we can sort through to find someone who would be a good fit.
A few months ago, one of my clients, who is an engineer, developed a version of the Drake Equation for dating and found a fairly small number...but still more than one! He found this link last week and emailed it to me the other day...funny how great minds think alike....

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This article was originally published at I Date Smarter with Gina Schuchman. Reprinted with permission.
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Gina Schuchman


Gina R. Schuchman, M.S.W., L.I.C.S.W.

Location: Edina, MN
Credentials: LICSW, MSW
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