If you have children, they might be hoping to get access to your children to abuse them physically or sexually. They might want to hurt you physically or sexually or emotionally. That might be what they need to feel good about themselves.
Think about these different kinds of people/daters as you go out into the dating world. And remember that not all of them will be honest with you about what their real goals and intentions are.
Think about what your goals are. Honestly.
Take time to get to know people before you get sexual and serious.
Be very clear with people you date about what your goals are. They won’t always listen or hear you so say it more than once.
Listen to what they say and listen to what they do. Ask them what they mean. Ask them more than once.