Manny Cosme (CPC,ELI-MP)
I believe in love. Being in love is the most amazing experience you can have in your life. I want to help people find real love and, even more important, stay in love. But as gay men, we have some real challenges when it comes to relationships. Our community has traditionally (and out of necessity) shunned intimate relationship. As a result, we have learned and even adapted to living our lives without these intimate connections. But as society becomes more accepting of single-sex relationship, more and more gay men are realizing that they can have the intimacy they crave. Relationships are challenging no doubt, and gay relationships can be even more challenging. Unfortunately there has been a lack of gay-focused relationship help, as most relationship professionals focus on traditional heterosexual relationships. While these professionals are great at helping straight couples, they don’t understand the nuances that exist in gay relationships – things like sexual position issues, sex apps, sub-scenes, and so on. These nuances form very real issues in forming and sustaining gay relationships, and the professional must have a strong understanding of them to be of any true help. My goal is to fill this much needed gap, and help gay men find, accept, and keep real love.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
I have always been interested in love. I was raised by two strong and loving parents who served as great role-models for a healthy relationship. This formed a strong desire for me to have my own healthy relationship, but soon discovered – after several failed relationships – that it was easier said than done. I became very interested in learning about what sustains a great intimate relationship, and started reading everything I could, attending workshops, etc. As I learned more, I was able to help my friends (and myself) through their relationship woes, become more consciously aware of the dynamics that were affecting the relationship and what to do to change those dynamics.
I used my knowledge to meet a wonderful guy. We fell in love and got engaged. But a few months later, he broke up with me seemingly out-of-the-blue. I was devastated to say the least, and immediately sought the help of a breakup coach. Through working with her, I was able to gain new perspectives on our relationship and realize that he wasn’t the right person for me. And this helped me to move on. Interestingly, as I was going through my own breakup, several of my other friends were breaking up with their long-term boyfriends. Devastated, they would come to me for help. Using my own experience and everything I had been learning, I was able to help them ease their pain and move on. Eventually these same friends were able to start dating again and looking for a new relationship, and so we would spend time talking about what they were looking for, what was blocking them, etc. It was during this period that my proverbial light bulb went off, and I realized what my true calling was: Helping gay men with their relationships!
Seeing a lack of professional help in the area of gay relationships, I decided that I would fill that gap! I enrolled in coaching school, and eventually earned my certification as a professional life coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) – the highest rated coaching school in the world. I concurrently enrolled in spiritual practitioner training with the Centers for Spiritual Living, to develop an even deeper understanding and control of the sub-conscious metaphysical forces that shape our lives. These trainings form an extremely powerful foundation for coaching.
Spiritual, but no affiliation
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