Unless your parents had a storybook romance, you might have inherited a few relationship no-nos ...
With Mother's Day around the corner, you've probably got mom on your mind. Sure, you've got a million things to thank her for. But chances are unless your mom and dad had a storybook romance, you also inherited a few not so lucky relationship habits from being your mother's daughter.
In fact, watching your parents' relationship is the biggest way you learned how to relate to men, so it's not surprising that you may have picked up some patterns that remind you of your mother. 20 Marriage "Rules" I've Learned From Being A Psychotherapist
The good news is, you don't have to make the same man mistakes as mom. You can choose to learn from her instead. Below are the top five relationship habits you may have learned from your mother and tips for charting a new, healthy, happy course for love.
Mom Mistake #1: Staying Too Long In A Painful Relationship
Many mothers stay in hurtful marriages "for the children." If you watched your mom play this role, you may have learned that you too should suffer for the sake of love. Now, you may have a hard time leaving relationships that just aren't right for you because you don't want to hurt anyone.
To bust out of this rut, you'll need to examine your definition of commitment. Commitment only works when it's healthy for both partners involved. Once harm is being created in a relationship, you owe it to you both to move on and create a loving, harmonious environment to thrive in.
Mom Mistake #2: Denying Your Needs
You may have watched your mom so busy pleasing everyone else that it didn't even seem she had any needs of her own! If so, you might find it hard to allow yourself to have a need or ask for help. How To Get Along With His Mom
To curb this pattern, practice tuning into what you need first and speak it out loud to your partner. He can't honor your needs if he doesn't know what they are. Also, you don't have to do everything by yourself. Notice when you wish you had some help and ask for it.
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