Do Nice Guys Finish Last? DUH!
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A while back, I asked these questions on behalf of men everywhere, which led to very heated responses from people all across the nation. By the way, my inbox thanks you for the work out. One of the questions breathed life into a fairly common debate: Do nice guys finish last?
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Well, nice guys may not always finish last, but they’re fairly accustomed to watching other guys cross the finish line before them. The essence of my question was this:
“Why do you always say you want a nice guy with a sense of humor, but only go out with the jerk…..?”
Let me share a few responses:
“Most girls, including me, fall for the jerks for one simple reason, we have been hurt so many times... that when a guy that is sweet, has a sense of humor, and loves us for who we are, comes along... we run. We are afraid and in turn we end up with the jerk. If someone could knock some sense into us... that would be wonderful.” – Punchick1022
“Nice guy is not equivalent to "door mat." You should be funny, considerate of others, and be able to stand by your convictions. That's my version of a "nice guy." A guy who just dotes on you and caters to your every whim and never disagrees with you is a door mat, and completely boring. So no, we don't want a real (jerk), we want someone who will stand up for what they believe in. Passion is sexy. Even if you lost the argument/debate in the end, you still made a go of it. That's what's important. And personally, I'm opinionated, confident, and assertive. I need a guy who won't back down to my strong personality, but will stand up to do the dance with me. I like a little bit of fire and conflict. I need it to balance a relationship properly” – Erin
“Bad boys have the confidence that funny guys lack. Confidence in men is very, very hot!” – Alicia
“Guys with bad temper and/or are (jerks) are passionate and usually have a great sense of humor. Guys with only a good sense of humor are usually too nice and do not present a challenge.” - eMCBEE
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“I suspect, one of the reasons why girls go for ill-tempered a&%holes with no sense of humor is cuz they fall for the pretty face and the hot bods first( and then they) realize the dude's a (jerk.) Or the bigger truth is that women think they are that special one to tame the wild horse...but sadly, that usually doesn’t happen and it takes a few relationships for us women to realize wild horses can't be tamed.” – Doreen K
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