4. If you feel that you're in a loyalty bind, speak openly about it without blaming anyone. "Sue, I feel like you've pulled away from since I've been dating John. How do you see it? I'd be devastated to lose you, just because you don't like him. Is there anything I can do to make the situation better or more comfortable?”
5. Tactfully address difficult behavior on your date's part. For example, "You're a wonderful story-teller Bob. It's one of the things I adore about you. But you talked so much last night that it was hard for my friends to have much space in the conversation. I'd like you to listen more when we're all together next time.”
6. Listen with an open-mind to constructive criticism that your friends have about your date. They need to be heard, and it won't help to muzzle them. Speak to critical friends one-on-one and ask them specifically what troubles them about the guy your dating. Ask for specific examples. Just listen and ask questions without interrupting, correcting facts, or defending him. You may need their feedback, especially if you've made poor choices in the past.
7. Draw the line. After you've truly listened, know where to draw the line and say "Enough!" "Sarah, I know that you think Bob brags too much and that he's not my