When Guys Say No To Sex

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When Guys Say No To Sex
Yes, it might sound crazy, but it happens! What to do when your man isn't in the mood.

By Robert Manni for GalTime.com

You read the title correctly. In this new world of "ours,  women have catapulted many traditional male achievements and traits. If you don’t believe me, just ask Rosemary Flores, a female wrestler at Curtis High School in New York who not only competes, but is also the captain of the boy’s team. And she boasted an 11-0 record including nine pins ¾ against boys.

 

Things have changed and there are no signs of slowing down, nor should there be. Since all bets are off in how we date and young women often being the aggressors in the pursuit of a partner, what happens when guys say no to sex? Believe it or not, it happens and it also happens with middle-age guys. So ladies of all ages, next time you dim the lights and bust a move on your man and he does not respond the way you want, consider the following before taking things personally or freaking out.

Okay, it’s not all good news, but remember; guys are people, too.

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Just One Night
Okay, maybe the two of you went on a bender starting with shots of wedding cake vodka before hitting the club. It’s been a long night and you’ve both indulged in multiple forms of stimulants. Imagine that. So it’s five a.m. and you’re wondering why he has not jumped your bones. It might not be a problem. He may be so wired that all he wants is to do more of whatever you two have been ingesting, or he’s so wired that he’s trying to chill. Speedy stimulants are not great for the male sexual apparatus. A guy might be there mentally, but physically it’s not working. Or, one night he might be totally stressed out from work or whatever is being thrown his way. If “no thank you” happens once in a blue moon, don’t fret. He’ll learn to slow down and you’ll make sure he focuses on you.

Months Pass By…
This is not a good sign. Sure, no means no whether you are a guy or a gal, but if your guy has passed up sex for a prolonged period of time and he is under sixty: Houston, you’ve got a problem. Every situation is different, but a healthy, robust sex life is part of the core DNA of a healthy relationship between partners—men and women, women and women, men and men. Sex rocks and since it takes two to tango and you’ve been left on the dance floor, I suggest that you sit your partner down and have a talk. Maybe it will turn out to be the talk, but you need some kind of talk for context.

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