Is It OK To Date While Separated From Your Spouse?


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Does "separated" mean "off limits?"

I know guys use the "I'm separated" line all the time. I know people who are just separated are iffy potential partners on most occasions. After all, there's a good chance that you get involved with that person and they drop that, "I'm getting back with my ex" bomb on you. That's happened to me. And let's face it, there's a great risk in being the first new relationship for the soon-to-be divorcee. Do you really want to be the rebound or the buffer between the old life and the new one?

If you ask me if I'd go out with someone who was going through a separation. Would I get into a serious relationship with that person? The answer would be a conditional "yes." I'd need to know everything about where that former relationship stood. I'd need to know and feel comfortable with my potential partner's emotional state. They'd need to convince me that their relationship was truly over with no chance of running back into the ex's arms. Am I crazy for taking that chance? Maybe. It's a colossal risk. But isn't every date, every relationship a risk? I've been the "separated guy" trying to date and I've gone out with women in that marital midgard and sometimes it's ended well, sometimes it hasn't. But that's the nature of the game. It's all a risk.


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Would you/have dated while separated? Would you go out with someone going through separation? Why? Why not?

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