Teaching Our Girls to Become Healthy Women

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Teaching Our Girls to Become Healthy Women
Girls need a strong role model. Prepare her to strut through life with her head held high.

Simply listening is a place to start in our conversations with our daughters.  The best conversations are ones that are equally weighted – where there is room for silence and each person has a voice. Offering girls an opportunity to calm a flood of emotions gives them a key tool to guide their ability to begin working on solutions.

I recently had the privilege of working with a group of moms and daughters and I asked the girls to write down what they wish their moms understood about being a middle school girl.  Here are some of their responses:

I wish moms would know that when we are moody we don’t mean to be mean or angry.

When I say nothing’s wrong I don’t mean it, I want to have a heart-to-heart.

I wish she could understand how important it is to be with my friends  - I want space from my mom sometimes and need to feel more independent.

How hard it is to repeat myself when I didn’t want to tell you in the first place.

It’s hard and we’re not perfect.

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Sometimes we want to talk to you.

Yelling does not make me listen.

Spending time with you once in a while would be nice.

Show me that you care.

It is hard having to worry about everything.

I don’t like it when she compliments EVERYTHING.  I want real input on what I do.  “oh, that’s nice” just doesn’t cut it.

I wish my mom knew how sad I am, and how much I’m going through.

In these words, I hear girls looking for connection and consistency with their families – a reaching out for important conversations.  

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Julie Metzger, RN, MN is the co-author of the book Will Puberty Last My Whole Life?

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