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If this sounds like you, know that to lock onto this idea that there's This One Perfect Person out there waiting and you're on some crazy-making goose-chase to find him is making your life worse, not better. You may think this is mature behavior, but that's like saying a horse has a really wise and focused perspective because someone has slapped blinders on him.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What would it look like to take full advantage of your single life? Are you reading, traveling, doing the things you always said you wanted to do? Why not?
- What kinds of relationships would you want to be in? (Because single in my book means unmarried, not celibate.)
- What is holding you back from living a fuller life?
(Want to know if you've got what it takes to be single? Check out the quiz I wrote for Anderson Cooper.)
Until you can really visualize what life could be for you now, rather than what it would be if it was written by a Hollywood screenwriter, it's hard to move things forward. And it's time to get moving.
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