Sandy Hook: How to Talk to Your Kids

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Sandy Hook: How to Talk to Your Kids
Figure out how to make sure your kids know and remember that they are safe.

Sandy Hook: How to Talk to Your Kids After a Tragedy

By Talking Teenage, Jennifer A. Powell-Lunder, Psy.D., for GalTime.com

 

How do you talk with your children about an unspeakable crime? It's a heartwrenching reality as the country takes in one of the worst school shootings in US history. Eighteen children, mainly kindergartners, and 9 adults, including the shooter, died after a shooting rampage this morning at an elementary school in Connecticut.

 

 

The gunman entered Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, and opened fire. Police are working on the motive, but sources say that the suspect had a connection to the school. One of the teachers was among the first killed early in the day and many of the young victims were her students.

How do you reassure your kids, let alone yourself that school is a safe enriching haven that provides the education they need to get ahead in this world? It's a difficult task, to say the least. As parents, we are faced with comprehending the news, fearing for our own children and wanting to make some kind of sense out of an elementary school shooting that will certainly go down in history as one of the most hideous crimes committed against our children.

 

 

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I am a parent who lives near enough to the tragedy it is hard to describe the sinking feeling of fear, disgust, sorrow and even terror our community feels. And as a child psychologist charged with trying to make sense of the tragedy, I am indeed overwhelmed.

It is important to focus on what we can do now, not on what has already happened. It is likely that many children will hear about this tragedy on television, online, in school, on the bus. What parents can do is prepare themselves to field questions and provide honest yet helpful answers.

Here are just a few helpful hints to consider:

 

 

  • If you are not sure your child knows about the tragedy, wait until he says something about it to you. Some children are more in tune with the world around them than others. Today, the president of the American Academy of Pediatrics, Thomas McInerny, MD, FAAP, issued a statement offering condolences and tips for parents. " As in any frightening situation, young children should not be exposed to the extensive media coverage of the event -- in other words, turn off the TV, computer, and other media devices."

 

  • If your child asks you what happened keep it simple and developmentally appropriate. If for example your child indicates that she heard that someone came to a school and killed children you should be honest but gentle. Preface your affirmation by reassuring her that this is called a tragedy because it is so rare and unexpected.

 

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
 
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