So don't freak out.
We asked several therapists, marriage counselors and relationship experts from around the country to shed some light on relationship behaviors that seem odd at first, but are actually quite normal. Take a seat and see how you and your mate compare.
1. Changing feelings
Once upon a time, you loved rocking the highest of high heels. These days, you're much more apt to throw on a pair of flats. It may sound simple, but your ever-evolving feelings on shoes can help to serve as a reminder that feelings come and go, and that's OK.
"Love is a living entity," explains Karen Sherman, Ph.D. "And just like people have good days and bad, so will there be periods where the loving feelings just won't be there. Hang in, focus on the positive, and the feelings will come back."
2. Going through adjustment periods
"If you decide to marry, even if you've lived together, the first year is likely to be bumpy," warns Sherman. "You're now in a legally committed relationship, the dynamics change, and there's a period of adjustment. Having lived together doesn't prevent this adjustment period."
So if you and your better half aren't in a state of bliss at every moment, it doesn't mean your relationship is doomed — it just means you're normal.
3. Enjoying different hobbies
He's into fantasy football and you're into shopping. Better yet, you're into fantasy football and he's into shopping. Either way, it's totally normal for you and your main squeeze to have different interests.
"You don't have to like all the same things to have a healthy relationship," notes Sherman. "What matters is having the same values." So go ahead and enjoy your fantasy football draft, and then swoon over the new shoes your man just bought online. You both deserve to enjoy your hobbies without feeling guilty.
4. Needing alone time
Are you the kind of person who would take yourself out for a date night for one? If so, you aren't alone.
"Washing a car, walking a dog, or exercising alone are signs of a healthy relationship with a secure attachment," says Lanada Williams, a licensed counselor. "Remind yourself that the individual you met still needs time to breathe and thrive."
5. Being slow to compliment
When is the last time you told your partner how hot they looked? We're all guilty of holding back compliments, and according to marriage and family therapist Holly Cox, it may even be something you're doing on purpose.
"When you give a compliment to anyone, but particularly someone you like a whole lot, you're putting yourself on the line," explains Cox. "Clients tell me they're often afraid their partners will reject the compliment — or worse, say something along the lines of, 'Wow, you're finally noticing everything I do around here. Uh-huh. What do you want?'"
Although this may be normal behavior, that doesn't mean it's OK. Remember to compliment your partner and accept the praise they give you.
6. Having trouble getting aroused
Every married couple has experienced one of those nights (or mornings) where one member of the duo is ready for a racy romp, but the other is ready for a mellow nap.
"Virtually all couples have sexual desire problems sooner or later," says psychologist Dr. Kate Roberts. "Couples often go long periods of time without having sex and then once they start up again, their sex life continues on its own."
7. Withholding information
Sure you told your partner about that expensive purse you just bought, you just chose not reveal how much you dropped on it.
"Couples often have different priorities for discretionary income and it's not uncommon for them to keep their secret stashes of clothes, toys, candy, or other discretionary items," says Dr. Roberts.
Just remember, it's never healthy to lie about how much you spend. If your partner asks how much you blew on that new pair of Jimmy Choos, keep it real. Lying to your partner, especially about money, is never going to lead you anywhere good.
8. Sparring, bickering, and fighting
As two different people with two different philosophies on life, you're bound to disagree at one point or another.
"Fighting is normal," explains therapist Dana Ward. "While some couples may think fighting is the sign of a bad relationship, it's actually is very important. The key is fighting with a purpose."
So whether you're fighting about something as trivial as how to fold socks, or as significant as a job transition, make sure to fight the topic, not each other.
9. Finding other people attractive
You may be utterly in love with your partner, but that doesn't mean you can't admire a hottie with a great set of legs.
"You can and should appreciate all the beauty and dashing good looks all around you," shares Ward. However, she notes, "Attractive and attraction is different. Find other people attractive, but stop short of allowing yourself to be attracted to them."
10. Getting scared and pulling away
Pulling away, taking a time out, going on a break — we're all human, and being vulnerable with someone else can at times be scary enough to make you run for the hills.
"Sometimes when things are getting very serious, men, in particular, may pull away while they decided to move forward," explains relationship coach Stef Safran.
However, just because one person in the relationship needs a breather, it doesn't mean your relationship is in desperate need of an SOS. It just means you're human.
This article was originally published at GalTime. Reprinted with permission from the author.