3. What about household responsibilities? If you're not yet living together, take a tour of each other's homes. Drastically different decorating styles, neatness, and organization levels can become sources of argument, and so can housekeeping and chores.
4. How close are you to family or friends? If one of you has a lot of family or friends, and the other does not, find out what those relationships mean. Where will you spend holidays? If there are family members who have problems, such as addiction or mental illness, how much will that impact your relationship?
5. How do you handle anger and other emotions? We all get upset from time to
time. If you are usually good at diffusing each other's anger, and being
supportive through times of grief or pain, your emotional bond will deepen
as time goes on.
6. How do you show love to each other? Sharing what actions and words mean love to you may be surprising. Even if it's a struggle, discussing how you give and receive love will improve your relationship.
7. How well did you discuss these very questions? Asking yourselves these questions are excellent tests of your ability to define and work out problems. Constructive discussion that leads to a mutually satisfactory solution means you know how to solve problems in your relationship. If not, get counseling before going further.
So how can bickering newlyweds resolve their issues-- and create a stronger relationship? Tessina suggests some simple steps.
Simple Steps to Create a Successful Marriage
Talk frequently and honestly to each other: Discuss everything from your frustrations to your appreciation of each other.
Strive to work together to solve anything that comes up: Don't get stuck on who's right or wrong, focus on solving the problem.
Have a sense of humor, give the benefit of the doubt, care about each other.
Our hearts go out to Katy and Russell.
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