It's summer, again. Do you know what your kids are doing? It is a bad idea for them to have the time and freedom to look for something interesting to do (because we all know where that will lead). The solution? Structured activities: organized sports, day and overnight camps, character building activities (a.k.a., chores, helping Grampa Joe clean up his garage, etc.) and volunteering. But, do kids really need to be involved in challenging, constructive activities. Here are some useful FAQs.
Aren’t kids over-worked and stressed out as it is?
The big deal about our poor children being over-scheduled is a myth. Most kids involved in structured activities really enjoy the experience and get a lot from their participation. Involvement in structured activities is associated with a number of desirable outcomes like better physical health, higher occupational and educational aspirations, greater self-esteem, higher rates of school completion and, get this, improved math and verbal skills. Less than 10% of kids can be considered over-scheduled. The negative effects begin to show up when kids spend more than 20 hours a week at structured activities or participate in 5 or more activities simultaneously. At most, that turns out to be about 6% of kids. So involve your kid in 4 simultaneous activities and stop at 19 hours a week. They should be fine.
Kids need time to just chill and relax don’t they?
Sure. They can take an hour to watch their favorite TV show or listen to some music once a week. Then they need to get back to doing something useful. Allowing your kid to spend three months of the Summer chillaxing results in unrealistic expectations about adult work life. And another thing, who is picking up the tab for all this leisure? Having too much time on your hands only happens to the very rich and the very poor. Guess which one your kid is likely to be if you let them lay around all the time.
Isn’t it important for kids to develop supportive friendships by socializing together?
Peer relationships are associated with just about every bad outcome for kids. They are also associated with many of the good outcomes. It depends on the peers. Structured activities are the perfect environment for developing quality peer relationships because they are supervised. Supervised by adults. Kids need guidance and mentoring. They need boundaries and encouragement. They need coaching and education. Structured activities are another source of positive adult supervision for your kid while also taking place in a social environment.
I’ve heard that the more time kids have to just play the better their overall development. If that’s true shouldn’t they have lots of time to play?