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How To Carve Out Couple Time When You Have A Baby

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How To Carve Out Couple Time When You Have A Baby
Finding time for romance after welcoming your newborn

Find a trusted babysitter and put her on standby once a month. Ask your parents to come watch the grandbaby. Or trade nights with a friend.  You watch her baby one night (read: play date with your kids) and the next week you switch.  There is always a way.

Trust me, it's better to spend the money now investing in some time to connect and have fun together than on divorce lawyers later.  It’s harder to grow out of love with someone you are having fun with, right?  So have fun!

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That’s right -- pen, not pencil. You can find thirty minutes a few times a week after the baby goes to sleep. I know you can’t do it every night, but you can do it at least three  nights a week.  Put it in your calendar, your phone, your whatever will pop up and remind you; it’s time for you both.

It can be as simple as trading massages.  You give him a 15-minute massage and then he gives you 15 minutes.  Who doesn’t like a little touch?  Crack open a bottle of wine, pour each of you a big glass and just talk about anything but the baby. Play a card game. Certainly there is something you both know?  If not, may I suggest this game called Frustration.  It is awesome! 

Even taking just thirty minutes a few times a week doing something unrelated to baby can help you maintain a good relationship with your husband.  Trust me, I’ve seen the best mommies lose themselves and then regret it a few years later after their kids have gotten bigger.  You can still be a mom and be you! 

What ways do you make sure you are getting couple-time when there is a baby in the house?

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