Four Tell-Tale Signs He's NOT the One


How to tell if he really is the man of your dreams.

By Robert Manni for

We've all heard the old adage of addition by subtraction. Most women keep a mental list of the qualities they seek in their partner. Some lists are short and to the point. Many are way too long and they can get in the way of finding The One. Your guy's guy suggests that being mindful of a few red flags can save time and streamline your search process. If the man you are seeing has issues with any of these four behavioral traits, it's a good bet that you are in for a challenge and he may not be worthy of your unconditional love. Take it from a guy who learned the hard way and ask yourself if any of these traits is too familiar.

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He's Cheap.

Yes, the economy's tough and the gap between rich and poor keeps growing, but you want your guy to know the difference between thrifty and stingy. Seventy-five percent of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. Sad, but true. That means that your guy needs to know how to manage and grow his pile of cash. He also needs to prioritize what he spends his money on. If the first time he asks you out he assumes you're splitting the check, that's a bad sign. If he takes you to a concert or sporting event and you're craning your neck in the nosebleed section (unless it's the Super Bowl or a Rolling Stones concert!) it's a bad sign. If he drinks cheap wine, buys cheap clothes, and tips ten percent, it's a bad sign.

He's Jealous.

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Jealousy is toxic. Jealousy has no benefits and it always results in hurt and resentment. It's an emotion driven by fear, anger and insecurity. Do you want to sign up for that? Of course not. You don't want your guy taking you for granted either, but if he gets jealous about your crush on Ryan Gosling or when you share a casual story that includes your ex that's a bad sign. I know a woman whose guy became upset because the voice on her GPS was male. Seriously. That's a very bad sign. Keep reading...

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