4. Use Light Touch: Keep a safe distance physically, but use light touch to show that you are interested. Light touch allows you to feel and assess if there is chemistry. Smile, laugh and lightly touch your date on the shoulder, back, hand, or leg and see how they respond and how you respond. When you lean into someone coyly it is a sexy way to get close to him/her without being over bearing. Chemistry will determine for you if the person is a coupon (not worth another date) or a ticket (worth more investment).
5. Keep the Conversation Positive: It is too easy to start telling your previous relationship horror stories. Really, there is plenty of time for that, just not the first date. The first date should be full of laughter, smiling, easy conversation and light flirtation.
These five things will make a first date easy and help to guide you if this is a person with whom you want to go on a second date. When you use these techniques it takes the pressure out of the first date. With the pressure gone, you can really define the situation for yourself. If this person is simply a coupon then you had a nice night, lost nothing and perhaps even gained a friend. If you feel this person could be a ticket, then you will want to be sure to leave telling them you would like to see them again.
Little life message: Relax, be at peace, enjoy the ride.
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