Confessions of 'Bad' Moms & Why We're Still Good
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“I cleaned my house and had my kids help me. And I pretended it was a game.”
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Cleaning Culpability? Rubbish. What a great way to teach your kids about responsibility while building up their self-esteem and making your house cleaner and you less stressed! Kudos! Let’s have a play-date – at my house.
BYOB (Bring your own broom). Jim Fay explains that giving a child chores provides him with a “euphoric feeling of ‘I’m a part of this family’” and satisfies one of a child’s inherent needs, “the need for a sense of inclusion or feeling you are an important, needed member of a family group.”
Guilt is inherent in parenting and when warranted, (secretly arranging a play-date for your daughter at her “friend” – who also happens to be the class biter – ‘s house so you can go get your nails done), can be a useful tool, directing us to change our behavior.
Or, it can be an indication that we’ve done something difficult, overcoming our own self-judgment or the judgment of others, to do something that’s right for our kids. Next time you’re feeling guilty, before you deem yourself a bad mom, try to find the good in your behavior (no, the fact that the shade of red you chose rocks, does not count.)
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