Can People Really Fall In Love Too Fast?

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Can People Really Fall In Love Too Fast?
Love at first sight sounds romantic, but how fast is too fast?

By Marcus Osborne for GalTime.com

All of our lives, we’re advised against allowing ourselves to fall in love too fast. They (whoever “they” are) tell us that love should happen deliberately, gradually, over a moderate amount of time to have truly legitimate long-term potential. That certainly sounds like sound advice. A cautious approach to new love is never in any way inappropriate. Better safe than sorry.

 

The problem is that even though this sounds like the right thing to do – feels like the right thing to do – it seems to me that there’s very little control over our emotions. Yet there are those who truly believe that we have some kind of real power and control over our feelings. Whenever I’ve heard someone proclaim that they wouldn’t “let themselves fall in love” with someone, I can only laugh. Certainly, as human beings we have the ability to make choices. As people we can acknowledge feeling a certain way without acting upon whatever powerful emotions may be brewing.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy.

 

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The experience of falling in love with someone is extraordinarily powerful – almost impossible to resist. And we have no ability to just turn it off. If we could do that, there wouldn’t be nearly so many shallow husks of decayed relationships strewn across the ages. But this notion that we can fall in love too quicky – that we somehow will fall in love too soon if we don’t exercise some sort of discretionary power over that emotion, I theorize has been all wrong for years.

I posted a question on my Facebook fan page asking the question, “On average, how soon after you begin seeing a new suitor do you realize that you’re falling for them?”

The overall response was generally in the range of 3 to 7 dates. Now this was a small sample size so it’s hardly scientific, but I think it’s indicative of something nonetheless. It may indicate that most people fall in love far sooner than we would care to admit and definitely sooner than we would like.

Think of your current or past relationships. How many of them took you more than a few dates before you felt the opening pangs of what you would eventually come to realize was you falling in love?

 

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When you really fell for someone, how long did it take?  Probably much sooner than you think. How many times have you heard people in successful relationships tell the story of how they “just knew right away?” I use myself as an example of this. My ex-wife and I moved in together two weeks after we met. We were together for the next ten years. Have you ever started to fall someone after more than ten dates? I’m guessing no. I theorize that most of us know fairly quickly, in spite of how we’re all told we should feel.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
 
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