Are You Treating Your Kids Like Your Career? 5 Ways to Tell


Are You Treating Your Kids Like Your Career? 5 Ways to Tell
It can be hard to balance your personal life and work life. See if you are doing it the right way.

By Teen Parenting Expert, Barbara Greenberg, PhD, for


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We don’t talk about this subject out loud now, do we? 

And, we see this all the time. Hey, listen I’ve heard evidence of this phenomenon at the hairdresser, nail salon, at high school softball games, and at the grocery store. Mothers move in closer to each other and start to talk to one other very seriously and very competitively about their kids’ achievements, successes, activities but certainly not about their disappointments, feelings, or emotional concerns. Nope, those topics are reserved for the night when those parents are alone with both the darkness of the night and their concerns.


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Now these are kids they are talking about, not careers. I’ll tell you though that it sounds a whole lot like they are talking about jobs and job advancement. And, these kids who are their current careers, in my opinion, are at risk to become highly anxious and stressed as they struggle not to let their parents down. Don’t kid yourself parents -- your kids are desperately afraid of failing you.


Want to figure out if your child has become your career? Answer the following five questions:

1.    Are your child’s test grades the highlight of your day if they are excellent grades?

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2.   Do you quiz other parents about what their kids are up to so that you can make sure that you have all bases covered with your own kid?


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3.   Do you sometimes forget that you have other activities in your life that don’t involve your children?

4.   When you meet up with other mothers is the primary and perhaps exclusive topic your kids


5.    Is your child showing signs of perfectionism and stress?

If you have answered yes to more than one of these questions, perhaps it is time to re-evaluate your life and figure out if you might just be pushing your kids too hard.


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