Are You Sexually Compatible?


Are You Sexually Compatible?
Find out where the chemistry starts and how to spice up the bedroom with these tried and true tips.

By GalTime Relationship Expert Jane Greer, Ph.D.

One of the biggest questions I get when people call into my Let's Talk Sex radio show is, "How do I know if I'm sexually compatible with my partner?"

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More importantly, they ask, "If the chemistry is missing or doesn't seem to be there, is that a bad sign?"

The only place chemistry or sexual synchronicity is that immediate is in the movies! Actors are 'supposed to be' attracted to each other and on the same page in the bedroom from the get-go.

Everywhere else? Getting in synch and working on the synchronicity takes work, takes time. It's a process.

First of all, in order to be comfortable with another person, you need to be comfortable in your own skin. A lot of times, that takes time to become comfortable with your body, confident, have that sexual esteem in place and be able to share it with another person.

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Additionally, people come to the bedroom with all different kinds of experiences and different styles.

3 Types of Bedroom Styles

1. Romantics like to be sweet-talked and wined and dined

2. Conservatives like to keep it straight-laced, more formal, traditional

3. Adventurers will try new things and try things in different places

If you have a "Conservative" with an "Adventurer" personality, it can take some time and work to figure out what works best for you as a couple.

The most important thing to remember is that sexual synchronicity is a process. It's like taking a journey or a trip. You should enjoy the "getting there" as much as the "being there." In the bedroom, take the time so that you and your partner can craft, create and shape an intimate lifestyle that works for the two of you.

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