7 Ways to Survive Divorce Later in Life

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7 Ways to Survive Divorce Later in Life
Even if you get divorced at an age that is not the "norm," figure out how to cope here.

3. Enjoy Your Friends - Take advantage of your new free time and make plans with your friends.  Call up that old friend you haven’t seen in ages and get together. Although it may seem like all of your friends are coupled up, you know they are longing for some quality friend time.  You may find that your long term couple friends are in divided camps. It doesn’t have to be that way.  Can you decide with your ex that everyone can be friends?  Just because you and your ex couldn’t work it out doesn’t mean that people have to take sides. If you let everyone know it’s cool, you can squash the awkwardness that comes from splitting.  Keeping yourself busy the weeks and months after divorce is a good thing.  So make lots of plans.  You can get your mind off of the divorce and it allows you talk about other things.  Do you hear that?  When you go out with your friends, talk about other things - not your divorce.

4. Make New Friends -  Does this frighten you a little? It shouldn't! Making new friends is not limited to young people.  There are plenty of opportunities to make new friends, you just have to put yourself out there to get them.  Do a search for college friends on Facebook, get great at tweeting, start connecting with other amateur photographers on Instagram. Seek out a divorce support group, start a breakfast club, volunteer at an organization you're passionate about. Find a book club, a running club or wine club -- whatever your interest.  Take that art class you have always wanted to take.  You can even find a Meetup group for singles in your age group.  This can help you focus on other things that interest you.  Don’t let the divorce define you, you are a complex individual with many interests.

5. Take Advantage of Your Age - The great thing about being your age is not having to deal with the inexperience you had in your 20s! You have been there, done that.  You know how to get things done.  Just because someone may have done your laundry for years or planned dinner or scheduled all the fun events, just because they are no longer in your life, it doesn’t mean you don’t know how to do these things. No one is going look at you and think, "Oh gosh, how is the laundry going to get done now?"  There isn’t anyone thinking you won’t be able to get out of the house.  Here’s something fun: think back to when you left your parents' house after high school.  Think of the excitement of being out on your own.  A place to yourself.  I’m sure you dreamt of having ice cream for breakfast and doing whatever you wanted.  Get that excitement back.  It’s your turn to get back out on your own.  Go back to that place of excitement, but with adult eyes. Dare to make new and exciting goals -- and to make a banana split tomorrow morning!

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