When your heart’s been bruised by a big break up, it’s common to feel a little reluctant about getting back in the game. After all, who wants to go through that again? And in fact, you’re wise to be thoughtful about timing your leap back into the dating pool because jumping right back in with an aching heart can certainly result in prolonging your emotional roller coaster ride. So, how do you know when the time is ripe to begin a fresh search for love? Answer these seven questions to gauge just how ready you are.
7 Signs You're Ready to Date Again
Sign 1: The Tears Have Dried
Can you think about your ex without getting teary or angry? To do a new guy justice, you need to start with a clear slate that isn’t clouded by strong or topsy-turvy feelings. When your ex comes up and you can feel neutral or just a twinge of emotion, you’ll know your heart is ready to open to another.
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Sign 2: Ex-Free Conversation
Do you still talk about your ex to your friends, co-workers, and family? If the past is still on your mind all of the time and you can’t help bringing him up in every conversation, it means you’re still in the heat of processing the relationship. When you’re no longer preoccupied with him, say, you’ve gone a week or more without mentioning him, you’ll have the freedom of mind to offer to a new cutie.
Sign 3: Your Life is a “No Old Beau Zone”
Do you still see, talk to, or text your old boyfriend regularly? If so, it’s a sign that you may still be dependent on him to meet your emotional needs. While it may be ok to remain friendly with your ex, you’ll need to stand on your own two feet, without his aid, before you’re ready to date again.
Sign 4: Your Confidence has ReboundedDo you feel like your old, ready to conquer the world, self yet? A break up can do a number on your confidence, making you doubt yourself in ways that feel unfamiliar. If the thought of any new rejection makes you feel devastated, wait until other man’s opinions don’t matter so much because you know just how awesome you are.
Sign 5: Lessons Learned