5 Ways To Deal With Jealousy
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By Sujeiry Gonzalez, Author of Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles, for GalTime
dating and the green-eyed monster
I once dated a man with roaming eyes. You know the type. He just had to stare into the bartender's double d's. He just had to turn around to check out the waitress because her butt was so round. It didn't matter if she was 20, 30 or 60. He just couldn't help it!
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Well, there's also something I can't help - my feelings of jealousy. If a man I'm dating so much as eyes another woman in front of me, the green-eyed monster wants to come out and play. And by play I mean curse, scream and cause all kinds of havoc. Luckily, I've learned to check him at the door and reel him in (the monster, not men). Here's how you can too.
5 Ways To Deal with Jealousy
1. Count to 10. If you're the jealous type and encounter a situation where you may lose your cool, breathe in and out and count to ten. This is a form of meditation, and as you know, meditation is used to soothe our angst and bring us to peaceful euphoria. Take a page from the yogis and relax.
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2. Talk About Your Feelings. Communicating your feelings of jealousy is important and much healthier than hollering like a maniac. Whether it's you-- or it's your partner who is the jealous type, be sure to talk it out. Why are you jealous? Why does he feel jealous? There may be something that is triggering these feelings that neither of you is aware of. If so, talk about it and compromise. Discuss these questions after you (or your jealous partner) count to ten!
3. Tackle Your Insecurities. They say jealousy stems from insecurity. I tend to agree unless there is blatant disrespect (I'm talking to you, boyfriend who put his hand on a stranger's behind!). So, ask yourself why you feel threatened. Why does he feel threatened if he's the jealous type? Do you feel unworthy? Do you not feel beautiful? Do you compare yourself to other women or men? Zone in on why it is that you instinctively feel insecure, and help your partner do the same if he is the jealous type.
