Expert Blog Compelling advice, stories, and thought-provoking perspectives straight from YourTango's lineup of Experts to you

5 Things to Tell Your Daughters Before They Go to College

Contributor
Self

Just choose a good time to say them!

By Barbara Greenberg, Ph.D. for GalTime.com

Dear Dr. G.,

My daughter is going off to college in a few weeks. I am worried that she may make bad decisions and get pressured into relationships and sex too soon. I remember my own freshman year of college and my friends and I made some pretty foolish decisions. It is very hard to change a bad reputation once you get a bad one. What do you suggest that I tell my daughter. Should I even broach this topic with her?

-A Concerned Mom

Dear Concerned Mom,

 

I am delighted that you brought up this topic. As we all know, there is a lot of drinking on college campuses. That coupled with males and females going to parties together without supervision may indeed lead to sexual encounters -- some positive and some not so positive.

RELATED: How a Mother's Self Confidence Impacts Her Daughter's Self Worth

 

I have polled a number of college girls about the advice that they wish that they had gotten prior to their freshmen year at college. I agree with their ideas and I recommend that you share them with your daughter.

1. Spend the first semester getting to know people and making friends rather than hooking up.

2. Spend a lot of time getting to know the opposite sex as friends so that you learn about their character.

3. Watch your alcohol intake. Too much alcohol leads to dis-inhibition, which may lead to sex that you may regret.

4. Say no to sex if you are not interested --- and say it firmly.

RELATED: Kids Going to College: Parents' 10 Biggest Worries

And

5. Remember that it can take years to change a reputation, if you are ever able to change it at all.

Good luck. I wish you and your daughter well. I invite other parents and daughters to weigh in on this issue.

More from GalTime:

 

Barbara R. Greenberg, Ph.D. is currently a professional consultant on teen issues at Silver Hill Hospital in New Canaan, CT. She also maintains a private practice in Fairfield County, CT. She served as a clinical administrator on an adolescent inpatient unit at a private psychiatric hospital for 21 years before dedicating herself to private outpatient practice and consultation work.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

Author
Contributor

Expert advice

If you can recognize this pattern, you can handle your favorite narcissist more effectively.
Are you still single and you don't why?
You constantly feel like you're walking on eggshells.